Closed

This blog is currently closed until something new crops up, which means ‘probably permanently’. Yes, I know I’ve said that before – three or four times perhaps – but each time there have been things that have drawn me out of retirement like the Aydin Coban fiasco or oddities like the Amanda Todd music tribute.

The main reason for the closure is simply that I have lost interest. My heart’s not in it. There was a time that something like the Thorn Sextortion Report might have prompted me to write more, but instead all it evokes is a sense of ennui mixed with frustration – ennui because of the tediousness of it all (reading exactly the same stuff over and over again) and frustration because, really, we all know that you can’t beat stupidity. Sending noodz could be made a capital offence and people will still be dumb enough to do it.

I would have liked to have written more about solutions, to have been more positive, but basically what I have learned is that there isn’t any cunning plan that works. I’ve watched as authorities have turned instances of sexting into ‘distribution of child porn’, turning 13-year-olds into criminals. What has that done? It’s made kids even more scared to risk owning up to their mistakes, and thus even more open to exploitation. In the latest NSPCC report, children are fully aware of the dangers yet they still get carried away – not being coerced by evil villains, but by others who they momentarily trust completely.

“This guy I met online would listen to all my problems and make me feel good about myself. I honestly thought he cared about me, so I did some sexual stuff over camera for him. As soon as I did, he turned really nasty and started threatening me because he wanted me to do and send more. He’s really scaring me so I regret ever talking to him now. I need help, but I’m terrified about telling my parents because they always told me not to talk to strangers online. I’m finding the situation really difficult to cope with, so I’ve started self-harming.”

Pandora’s box has been opened. Kids are being given access to the Internet – ‘history’s largest sewer’ – from birth. The days of being worried that your kid might find a copy of Playboy or get a thrill from a lingerie catalogue are long-gone – hard-core porn is just a screen away. So unless the world turns Amish, the situation is here to stay.

All doom and gloom? No.

The media likes to give us shock-horror statistics. Every kid’s a suicide risk, every kid is in danger, epidemics, contagion. However, it’s never as bad as it seems. It’s one reason why this blog has become boring – there isn’t enough to maintain that headline-gathering clickbait so loved by online attention-seekers. Sure, there are perverts and predators of the worst kind, but there have always been perverts and predators. The Internet just allows us to think that they are everywhere. Read the suicide-circus information – the lists of tragedies is actually tiny, repeating the same names over and over again. Amanda Todd, Megan Meier, Tyler Clementi, plus a few more. Spread out over years. That’s not to say that we shouldn’t care, but there is a huge tendency for people to start getting bored with endless iterations of misery, and kids lose interest in hearing the same thing all the time.

So can I give any advice?

I’ve kind of distilled my way of thinking. It’s useless going on about parenting. The Philip Larkin poem sums it up.

Expect lawmakers and authorities to help? Not a chance unless you want every kid sent to juvie or your child judged as being in the same league as molesters and perverts after a dim-witted dick pic.

The Internet providers? Only interested in money and advertising revenue.

So it comes down yet again to two things.

Education from an early age. When I started this blog, I thought that 13 was a good start. After all, you can only join Facebook at that age. How naive that appears. Now, I would say primary school age – maybe even as low as six years old. There should be at least an hour a week, not just teaching kids about online technology but offering a place where they can discuss any problems they have – if they’ve seen upsetting things or been bullied – along with discussions about how they are doing in Minecraft. Every school should have at least one qualified Internet counsellor (preferably every teacher should have a basic knowledge of how to deal with Internet problems).  This isn’t about endless lecturing of the perils of online life – kids just turn off from all that. It’s about having proper education and a place to go to get advice. And forget about inviting the cops in to talk about it, making it even more terrifying for kids who might be in trouble. School authorities need to have Internet experts who can get involved to provide solutions in the worst cases – not overblown clueless SWAT teams petrifying a couple of kids who have just been stupid.

ChildLine. It’s quite sad to see that the Internet has become the cause of and the answer to all life’s problems. Kids are more likely to put their problems in a blog or in a YouTube confession than to talk to other people. One young girl who threw herself under a train had a blog about her anorexia with 40,000 followers. Do a quick search on YouTube to see how many ‘My suicide story’ ones there are. Unfortunately – in the UK at least – organisations like the Samaritans, ChildLine and the NSPCC are still charity-based. They need to be supported so that they can provide the type of help needed in the 21st century. And I’ll state strongly – support ONLY proven organisations with a track-record of having the correct expertise.

Oh – and just one more thing. Don’t ever, ever, threaten confiscation of Internet access. Kids would rather be tortured than lose their phones.

So that’s it for now. Take care.

 

 

 

 

Aydin Coban’s identities

Anyone recognise any of these names? They are all meant to be Aydin Coban. It’s not a complete list.

JennyCohen@hushmail.com

MarcCamerons@hushmail.com, marccameronssss@yahoo.com

b2705816@nwldx.com

ffttgg4@gmail.com

tylerc4@myopera.com

codymorrish@hotmail.com

kelseyrain1, kelseyrain2, kelseyrain3, kelseyrain4, kelseyrain5 – all @yahoo.com

maryyram85@live.com

katiecollinsusa, shaecollins, austincollins – all @yahoo.com

uzunin8@gmail.com

kody1206@live.com

darrenmiles96@yahoo.com

arianapenas@yahoo.com

jaydehgermanuh@yahoo.com

fairywer4@yahoo.com

stuntest34@yahoo.com

galage3@yahoo.com

hesrt44@yahoo.com

mastbast1@yahoo.com

brightonsbest1@yahoo.com

xxmycrowsoftxx@yahoo.com

theInternet70@live.com

calimestor@yahoo.com

ex5rc6fmon@yahoo.com

lionmionzion@hotmail.com

torlimdaaylim@outlook.com

mirahalcannister@outlook.com

teleportingsallylala@outlook.com

bestfamilyinbrighton@yahoo.com

thebrightsunis1@outlook.com

Dylan Polo

Austin Collins

Marc Camer

Tomas Coco Pops

Sietse Goossens

Sidnuh Merclans

Kelseeh Rayn

Jaydeh Germanuh

Brandns Fathr, Brandoons Father, Brandon Tay, brandonmylife

Kyle Hymen Norito

Lars Merckin

Kody Maxson

Martin Canton

Kaitlin Frye

Zainah1

mel.raine.1

miranda.todd.39

deanniha

Marcelinda McTomas

Olive Kubi

Mirandela Sintaford

Terliyam Hefter

Linda Aylim

Tedyubak Matkela

Secretdavee, Davey Sucret

Cody Cena

Pena Arianna, Arianna Pena Patterson

Mary Clifford

k000dy, k0dddy2

Ashley Canterr

Jordan Stolar

Megan McBrown

Gemmaduck Mackieearphones, Duckami Mahckie, Marc Mackieroni Gemmaro (Gemma Mackie = victim, I think)

And that’s not the entire list, but it will do for now. So…..any clues? Any recognition?

Apart from a couple, none of these register anywhere.

 

Hello – is Aydin here? Nope? But r0ra is in the room

 dylanpolo

It’s been a busy weekend, and to be honest I’m getting very confused. Just who is Aydin? Where is he?

Is he in the cutiielover chatlogs? Although these have been already published earlier in the blog, the names were redacted for certain reasons, so here are all the names in full. For newcomers who might be blissfully unaware, cutiielover is Amanda Todd.

BlogTV Conversation Log. Server Date: 12/5/2010 8:32:15 PM, Client Date: Sun Dec 5 19:26:25 GMT-0600 2010, Room: cutiielover Live, Checksum: 1314457

Welcome to blogTV’s chat:
– No nudity / sex / copyrighted materials
– NEW chat commands: /[COMMAND] [USERNAME] /KICK /BAN /OP /SEARCH /UNBAN /DEOP
– Follow us on twitter: http://www.twitter.com/blogtv
– You must abide by the blogTv_Terms_of_use
– Need help? Read the blogTV Tips_&_tricks
Have fun!
pkyboy1: sexy
cutiielover: im not like that anymore.
boxfrog: sigh
crazeboy123: what were u like
cutiielover: a slut
crazeboy123: oh
spitoswallow:
kontiky: lol… i kinda like sluts
crazeboy123: wwhat made u change may I ask
kontiky: idk why
You have entered the cutiielover Live
show by cutiielover. cutiielover(14) is from Canada .Dundundunlol: she is a slut she still is 1
cutiielover: all my friends found my pic
spitoswallow: REGLION MADE HER CHANGE
Dundundunlol: she bated on cam to ppl
cutiielover: and sent my boobs out to everyone in my city.
Dundundunlol: other nite
kontiky: maybe because im a guy…
Dundundunlol: slut
ZapsThosePests: Hey Cutie, whats up?
crazeboy123: oh daaamn
Dundundunlol: still a slut
jakethai: are they still ur friend
cutiielover: no
jake9898: just because u like sex or mess around doesnt make u a slut… but yea… just gotta be careful who u trust
cutiielover: iim moving out of the counrty now.
jake9898: come to america!!!
kontiky: lol…no
crazeboy123: well you are super hot

BlogTV Conversation Log. Server Date: 12/18/2010 2:50:59 AM, Client Date: Sat Dec 18 01:44:58 GMT-0600 2010, Room: cutiielover Live, Checksum: 2209434

XoXLo0znMyFawknMindXoX: tell
jason1996c: nope
RyanJanns: no u arent flat
MrPickleHead: we have the hottest girls here in canada
youneek: you are smexy, be serious?
abstractingthereal: flat? i don’t think so
steve16ca: TINY SUCKS NOW
milksnake: that looks nice😉
vspec: can’t tell with shirt on
vyruz: nice boobs
AmuroLite: by the time you hit 300, you’ll have a waiting room. usually being a tease helps though.
steve16ca: USTREAM IS BETTER
xxFxxAxxQxxUxx: so lets see something real sexy<<<<<
jason1996c: what size bra do u wear
SkylerX: with that shirt its hard to tell but i don’t think falt
XoXLo0znMyFawknMindXoX: 32b?
SkylerX: flat*
Carp3tMunch3r: put on something really esxay and tease us please
ZapsThosePests: next to the disk symbol is a another sysmbol you can use to switch rooms
cum-again:
XoXLo0znMyFawknMindXoX: i was close
XoXLo0znMyFawknMindXoX: lol
SkylerX: C is nice
XoXLo0znMyFawknMindXoX: -blames it on the dark shirt
jason1996c: C is perfect
abstractingthereal: 31g
steve16ca: only ops can switch rooms?
leftrightleft: i remember you coming in and just telling people to make you a tiny xD
youneek: 32 C is not small at all
jason1996c: nice
SkylerX: they match your undies
Carp3tMunch3r: lol
abstractingthereal: out of focus
scarlet_soul: can we see spome more of your cut eunderwear?
Carp3tMunch3r: shirt with no bra under?
cum-again: NEED OVER 150 CHATTERS 2 GET A WAITN ROOM
scarlet_soul: *cute
Carp3tMunch3r: thats wuld be hot too
SkylerX: 11 more for waiting room
ZapsThosePests: 12 more then a waiting rom
cum-again: YA
RyanJanns: yeah
Redirtroad: yea
milksnake: sure
ZapsThosePests: ALWAYS
milksnake: 😀
scarlet_soul: yea
SkylerX: k, give us the link
KevinG95:
steve16ca: what will she do???
jason1996c: ok
MrPickleHead: hell yeah
miomio77:
abstractingthereal: haha
youneek: then you wiil get a waiting room for sure
Shocked: yes!
abstractingthereal: www.
ZapsThosePests: but I am already subscribed
XoXLo0znMyFawknMindXoX: ^^ put it in your title
cutiielover: http://www.youtube.com/isabella100555

BlogTV Conversation Log. Server Date: 12/18/2010 3:06:54 AM, Client Date: Sat Dec 18 02:00:46 GMT-0600 2010, Room: cutiielover Live, Checksum: 2336076

cristian007: mod in the room
cum-again: FLAGGED 4 PILLOW
cum-again: LOL
cum-again:
savine2:
scarlet_soul: we should check your hot ass :p
cum-again:
leftrightleft: are you going to show again when he/she gets on?
XoXLo0znMyFawknMindXoX: how is 151 chatters possible i thought it was 150 max
jesse95: means mod is in the room
cum-again: MOD
Carp3tMunch3r: u could pull down the front of your PJs as far down as you dare JUST done show any bush
KevinG95: she is shaved
youneek: whenever it’s 149, or 150, a “hidden” mod is in the room
youneek: 151*
Carp3tMunch3r: o my mistake, im used to working with carpet
XoXLo0znMyFawknMindXoX: how bout 151 tho
AmuroLite: prove it!
SkylerX: yeah blogtv mods are nazis
cum-again: IVE SEEN 152
leftrightleft: prove shaved
cristian007: show you shaved
Carp3tMunch3r: how far down can u pull your PJs???
ZapsThosePests: 151 or more confuses me
greentree2: blocked
KevinG95: would you pull down as far as you dare ?
Smiling_Buddha: 151 is possible wen an op or the b-caster goes into waiting room and returns
youneek: yah, 152 is two mods in room
cum-again: DON GET BANNED
youneek: you’re not shaved
leftrightleft: she has a bush
vyruz: show
drake4ever: need to rub and put mic next to hear
krazy_monkey: lower the cam a bit
AmuroLite: prove it, prove it.
scarlet_soul: there’s an ausi girl stripping on another channel lol
Carp3tMunch3r: 153 means all the mods r there cuz its superfriggin HOT
badboy-15: shes just sitting there
scarlet_soul: no mods
cum-again: DONT SHOW ANYTHING
realbadboy: lets go to tinychat
cum-again:
drake4ever: no noise means shaved
jesse95: link?
SkylerX: i have a room you can use don’t get banned
scarlet_soul: they got 600 viewers
ZapsThosePests: let the stripper get banned
jesse95: dont you love it when guys say there’s a girl strippin and they dont link the f’n room
XoXLo0znMyFawknMindXoX: he had a boner
jakeskater: who?
XoXLo0znMyFawknMindXoX: lol
cristian007: show your shaved?????
youneek: not linking room is smart
youneek: more viewers = more chance of ban
badboy-15: ur going to make me blush aren’t u
cum-again: WHO GOT 600? LINK
scarlet_soul: that other girl has awesome tits :p
ZapsThosePests: haha, the one you told us about!!!
Carp3tMunch3r: i had a boner earlier
XoXLo0znMyFawknMindXoX: hayy dont be ashamed… it happens
Recognise any of the names? I’m told that cum-again is our old friend r0ra who keeps commenting nonsense on the blog, and ZapsThosePests is featured in the Daily Capper news.
But as if that’s not enough, some other kind person has supplied information regarding Dylan Polo (who is meant to be Aydin Coban and is found on Facebook as Dylan.Polo.98).
*His Name Is Polo, Also Known As Dylan Mess
*Said He Lives In Europe, In The Netherlands
*His Old Skype Was Intothedylan, And Another One Is Dylanmess1
*His Original Site Was Tinychat.com/Alphakennybuddy, And It Appears That He Reused That Name For One Of The Rooms On His New Site
*His Dad Owns Some Kind Of Hotel Company, So He’s Filthy Rich
*Has Been Said To Use 2 VPNS, And Uses Proxies
*The Site Name Starts With An O, Q, A Or C, Then It’s 4 Letters And Most Likely Ends With Chat
*It’s Europe Based And He Advertises On Some European Social Network Like FB
*He Uses Flashcoms Software For The Chat And Cams
*Has 500-700 People Spread Over Several Rooms At It’s Peak
*Users Can Make Their Own Rooms
*The Site Is Purple Green And White All Over
*There Have Been A Few Threads On 4chan’s /Soc/ And http://www.anonib.com About It With People Trying To Find The Site.
*He Most Likely Made It In November Of 2012
*These Are Screenshots Of The Site http://imgur.com/a/QnVJm

*If You Search “Polo” On http://www.anonib.com/ That Is Where I Found Most Of The Info.

Hmmm….there’s a lot happening. I had a panic attack when I couldn’t log on this morning, and my paranoia setting is high.
Over to you, r0ra – and please make a sensible comment for a change.

Amanda Todd – One step closer to the truth.

cutieelover1a

Sorry about the jpg. Just click on it.

As soon as one thing seems to get resolved, something else crops up that turns a lot of the story upside down again. There is a lot of grief in this – not just for the main participants, but for those other, more innocent victims of the witch hunts, the hatred, the suspicions. And for all those people from all across the world, all those genuine people, all those kids who have cried about this, it’s a terrible shame.

We have – and it saddens me to say this – been severely tricked.  I thought that  I would be jumping for joy as I learned that more and more of what I was saying was coming true, but instead I’m simply becoming more disheartened.

The details I have posted today are true. I will seek to evaluate them as clinically and as precisely as I possibly can. At first, I was just tempted to post the screen cap and leave it up to readers to make up their own minds. But, as usual, I will try to analyse what is behind all of this.

As you will see, the capture is from December 5th, 2010. That’s ten days after ‘cutieelover’ aka Amanda Todd joined BlogTV. What she did, or where she was prior to that, I don’t know at the moment. This is eighteen days before the police arrived on her doorstep on December 23rd.

Note that the BlogTV rules are absolutely clear. I have criticised BlogTV (now YouNow) for allowing things, but to give them credit, they were quite clear about the rules, and very quick to ban people who broke them. There is no real excuse for not knowing that nudity was frowned upon. As we know, cutiielover was banned twelve days later.

Amanda is quite well-known. It is possible that, from the commencement of her membership of BlogTV on November 26th, she could have received quite a following – reputations grow fast online.

Note: this may not be the full online conversation for December 5th. I originally thought that this might be the beginning of it all, but it is possible that there were earlier comments.

The first comment available is a cordial ‘sexy’. The second comment from cutieelover is – well, what? – poignant? Could that be the word? I don’t know. Or it could just be straightforward. Who can tell?

‘im not like that anymore’

What can anyone read into this? It sounds quite forlorn, like she’s realised something, and has decided to stop. On it’s own, it sounds like it’s a finality, but, sadly, we know that just a few days later she was flashing again, and that this behaviour continued on for quite some time. Can we deduce any period of time from this? Like I said – and I hope – her reputation might have simply grown in the previous two weeks, but I retain a slight idea that these are the words of someone who has been quite known for some time. But that is irrelevant, really.

It looks like one of her fans issues a ‘sigh’ of disappointment. Or of shared sadness?

I guess that the next comment is from someone new to the room: ‘what were u like’.  The answer is horrible.

‘a slut’

What in God’s name would make a girl say this? Here are some attempts to explain, but first let me say that it is significant and important. It points strongly towards why so many people used the word ‘slut’ to describe her – it’s the term she has applied to herself. It is actually Amanda herself who first uses the term to describe her own behaviour. People would have read these comments, and no doubt her friends would have heard her say it.

There are two reasons why she should have said this. The first is quite a cold-hearted suggestion; the second is gut-wrenchingly sad. I would prefer to choose the first. It kills me more to choose the second.

The first reason: Amanda is relatively proud of being seen as a slut. It’s a sort of show-off, attention-seeking phrase – ‘Look at me! I’m a slut! I’m not a mundane nobody, I’m someone who boys queue up to see! I’m the centre of attention, and that makes me feel important!’

Look at the news. We live in a society where sluttish behaviour makes you rich and famous. You know the names, I have no need to make a list. Reality TV praises the slut, denigrates the nice people. Look at the magazines aimed at later teens, read by 12-year-olds. In the UK, it’s ‘Nuts’ and ‘Zoo’. And those idiotic cretins who invented ‘slut walks’ – be proud that you look like a slut! Have they ANY idea what they are doing? (OK, reader, I’ll get down off my soap box)

Like so many words these days, slut has lost its meaning. It’s tossed around school playgrounds as easily as the old words like ‘fatty’ and ‘foureyes’. There is a distinct possibility that Amanda uses the term ‘slut’ as a badge of distinction.

The second reason: (this is appallingly sad) Amanda might have had such low self-esteem that she had become used to calling herself a slut. Why she would do this, I don’t know. From family background, I would guess the origin lay elsewhere. There are plenty of vile parents who will destroy their kids’ self-worth, but I don’t see that here. If anything, it might have been the opposite from her parents – they might have built her ego up to massive  proportions.

So why would she tag herself a slut? Did she go online, get naked, expect to get praise but get called a slut? Did she find that the only way to get the BlogTV viewers interested was to behave like a slut? It is extraordinary how dependent kids are on online feedback, and we know that Amanda was addicted to it.

Another, less probable but viable view is this: we know that Amanda possibly suffered from learning difficulties. She may well have had a huge sense that she was, in some way, a disappointment and failure. She had tried desperately to publicise herself online and elsewhere – singing, cheerleading – but it looks like the only thing she, as a person, felt that she truly excelled at, and that got her the attention, was to be a slut.

I must move on. The newbie answers a plaintive and shocked ‘oh’. Someone posts a picture.

‘lol….i kinda like sluts’ – seen as positive feedback?

The newbie asks her what made her change her mind.

‘idk why’ is Kon*** basically answering his own statement two lines above.

Another person enters the room.

Dun*** writes: ‘she is a slut she still is 1’. How is that meant? How is that taken? A joke? An insult? Horrifyingly aggressive male words? Or teen nonsense?

And then we have it:

‘all my friends found my pic’

Not ‘I’ve been stalked’. Not ‘I’ve been blackmailed’. All her friends found her pic. To me, this proves that the blackmail case is now closed. She said this to cover herself. There WAS a lot of stuff going on a la Peyton Ramsey, and it’s all very convoluted. But you can strike ‘blackmail’ and ‘stalker’ from the notebook for now.

I will leave it there for now. Tomorrow, there will be more about what really happened. It might take me time.

So – return to this blog – same Philip time, same Philip channel (that’s old skool Batman, just in case no-one knew).

 

 

 

 

 

Amanda’s last appearance as cutiielover

cutiielover

Today’s post is the one which has caused me most problems, and the most consternation. Will it cause major trouble, or will it just become yet another piece of Amanda Todd flotsam, floating on the sea of information surrounding the case? Does anyone really care any more?

I have to stop thinking and just get on with it. I had no idea how to approach this. For me, it is quite a key moment, as this photo initiates, probably, a much deeper investigation. As regular readers know, I have, at times, been lost in the forest – wandering off along cul-de-sacs, getting lost, turning back along paths I’ve already trodden more than once. But occasionally I have come upon glades of clarity – certain information shining light on many of the problems.

An honest and trustworthy source sent me this photo, and I will explain what it shows, just in case anyone wonders.

This is the last appearance of Amanda Todd as cutiielover. At almost exactly the same time as Amanda flashed, she was reported, hence the ‘Inappropriate content’ box in the middle. However, those of you following the story will know that Amanda went to great lengths to return as ‘Announcing Amanda’ very soon afterwards.

Note that she had 191 viewers at the time. This is significant. In Amanda’s video, we are led to believe that the ‘photo’ was perhaps the result of quite an intimate one-to-one webcam chat with a trusted friend. This, of course, shows that to be completely untrue. Amanda was aware that she had 191 viewers – it would have been obvious to her, as she would have seen this exact same screen in front of her. So, to a certain extent, it could have been any one of these 191 viewers who passed her video clip to a porn site. Or it could have been any other person on the planet – this video clip could have been sent around from 191 viewers, through various chatroom sites, to phones and laptops everywhere, before ending up where it did. Remember – Amanda was seen as a celebrity in the Capper world.

However, it is likely that the person who spread the video around was in the room at the time. You will see that names have been covered up. It is highly likely that those names are known. There is even a chance that those names might actually see this and know that they have been found out. The names have been blacked out for the time being, and I am not telling you who they are. However, I think I can safely tell you that Kody Maxson is nowhere near this – if people persist in believing that drivel, then so be it, but it is totally wrong. The story that Kody Maxson coerced/enticed/flattered Amanda into flashing is THE most ridiculous part of this case. It has let a lot of people off the hook. At a later point in the blog, I will investigate this further.

You will also see a few comments – like ‘JUST DO IT’. We can imagine the scene. Amanda has appeared. She is well-known and, as far as we know, relatively new to the BlogTV set up. Already, 191 viewers have crowded into the room. Some of them will be heros, some of them blackmailers, some of them will simply be there for the fun of it. Amanda flirts with her audience. Now, at the moment, I have to state things that are mostly rumour for the time being.

It is rumoured that this Amanda appearance was a two-way thing, in that she played to the audience, and was fully aware of the game she was playing. But, without concrete evidence of that, I will only continue with a kinder version.

So – Amanda is in a room with 191 viewers, most of them being a mixture of stupid kids, rabid Cappers, maybe a few perverts. They egg her on – ‘JUST DO IT’ and so on. And she does it. People have seen the entire scene at cameracaptures. She laughs. It’s just a game.

Surely, people can see that this is light years away from the story we are meant to believe. The media would have you think that, at minimum, everything was the equivalent of a one-off Snapchat type of sexting photo. It was what Amanda wanted us to believe. The media does allow a certain leeway. Somewhere in the middle ground, the media would like it to be a story of one small video, maybe one or two, that were created by a naive, innocent young girl who was tricked, cajoled, coerced by some Devil figure. And, of course, a few of the online news breakers have actually shown more details about Amanda’s BlogTV escapades and more, but the general public doesn’t really want to think about all that.

But what this shows is that, on December 17th 2010, Amanda was a willing participant in what was, essentially, an online piece of tomfoolery. I won’t go on too much here, but later in the blog I will describe what I believe actually happened around this time in more detail.

Now look at more detail in the photo. Amanda clearly admits to being 14. I have to admit to being wrong in the past. I had assumed that Amanda might have lied about her age, as she did in so many other places, but here it is clear that she didn’t. That, obviously, means that people should have been aware that she was a minor, and morality should have dictated that people responded accordingly. Some people – in fact, a lot of people – did, hence the reporting and the ban from BlogTV. But for the rest, remember that the BlogTV situation is feral. There is no concept of decency for them.

But here we enter into a dichotomy. At one extreme, the authorities and fervent – how shall I put it? – uninformed people have cried ‘child pornography’. Yet within the melee of nonsense surrounding the case, more people have stated that flashing is, really, an innocent pastime undertaken by naive young girls. So what do we believe here?

Here’s how I put it. The vast majority of people think that child pornography is just that – a level of sexual content in pictures involving children that can be seen as disturbing and evil. It conjures up all our worst nightmares. But flashing is seen just as a harmless activity which, in 99% of cases, it is. The thousands of kids swapping flashing pictures don’t see it as child pornography. It’s become almost a part of growing up. Of Amanda’s audience, many would have seen all of this as just a laugh, all part of the game. The fact that Amanda was 14 was irrelevant – some of the spectators would have been in the same age group. Only a few would have seen the dangers for Amanda, and only a few, if any, would fulfill the criteria of being a pedophile, old-man pervert predator. I will go into more detail later in the blog.

The details show that Amanda is from Canada. It wouldn’t have been difficult to trace her. As we know, her online presence was huge. We can also see the dates of Amanda’s entry into the BlogTV world – November 26th, 2010. Now, surely, this completely destroys the myth that Amanda was 12 and in 7th grade. That is simply not true, but has become part of the mythology. I think I can confidently state that she was 14, at the tail end of being 13, when all this began. The December 18th date is false. That is the date in a different time zone. This all happened on December 17th, Canada time. Shockingly close to the police raid of December 23rd.

Now, what is more interesting is that you can see the half-covered stills from two other archived videos of Amanda – entitled ‘ill be’ and ‘bored’. What does this tell us? It tells us that Amanda’s appearances were archived. She would have not known, perhaps, that she was being capped (I find it hard to believe) but she would have been totally aware that her videos were archived. This complicates matters. Any person could have returned to Amanda’s profile at any point and seen the archives. I don’t know what happened after the ban – I asume that her records were erased. But it shows just how public Amanda was.

Now, this photo really puts the cat amongst the pigeons, and I will have to think hard and dig deeper to work out what happened.

Here is an assumption that I need to clarify: I now assume that this appearance was the one that kicked off all the fuss. We have an absolutely certain date – December 17th, 2010. I assume that this appearance was the one that was passed around her school. I have no data concerning the flash episode where she has her friend with her, but I think it’s obvious that it is around he same time.

So where does this put the blackmailing story? According to Amanda, she flashed once, and it was a year later that the stalker turned up. That is now, clearly, utter nonsense. After December 17th 2010, things must have moved rapidly. It doesn’t make sense. Did a ‘blackmailer’ get his act together almost instantaneously? It’s possible. Within seconds of Amanda’s flash, the picture could have been anywhere, and we all know how quickly things spread. But still, according to reports, Amanda also had time to be banned and then re-appear as ‘Announcing Amanda’, so that would have added a day or two to things. And then the cops arrived on December 23rd.

Amanda’s lies cloud the issue. I hate speculation, but I must admit my gut feelings have, in the past, been very close to the reality of the situation. My gut feeling is that Amanda got caught out about her flashing, and simply panicked and said she was blackmailed.

What I find more confusing is why she continued, and things got worse. This post has gone on a bit too long, and I need to think and find out more details.

Thank you to my source for giving me this information. For my two readers, I hope this wasn’t too much of an anti-climax. I will now revisit the Amanda story – it seems like it’s the millionth time I’ve done so. And by the way – you won’t find any of this online, so there’s no point looking.

I look forward to receiving any comments and any more information that anyone out there can provide. This post hasn’t covered many things today. More will be clarified in later posts.

Please go on to this link for the next instalment:

https://philipjrose.wordpress.com/2013/04/26/the-story-takes-yet-another-bizarre-twist/

 

 

 

 

 

Thorn Sextortion Report

Channon Rose. A charming young lady with plenty of stories to tell.

There’s a report on sextortion.

https://www.wearethorn.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/06/Sextortion-Report.pdf

I was put off by an introductory sentence – ‘Sextortion is an emerging form of online abuse, but little is known about it.’ – as some people have known about it for years. There’s not much in the report that most people don’t know already.

The conclusions from the gathered data are a bit poor, e.g. that the majority of respondents are girls means that most victims are girls. There also seems to be an inordinate amount of trust involved. The report seems to make no allowance for stories that may be fabricated or exaggerated. For instance, I found this slightly bizarre.

“He was choking a cat [on a video chat site] and told me if I didn’t do as he said he would kill the cat. So I showed him my breast and he stopped hurting the cat. He then showed me the video he had of me showing my breast and said that if I leave [the site] he knows where I live and will post it to my Facebook page.”
It’s not that I don’t believe the account (anything can happen online) but I just wonder how the Hell someone gets to be video-chatting with a cat-strangler.

I haven’t read the full report yet, but I was annoyed to see that there is still strong gender bias. Remarkably, there are statements that young girls receive more shame online than boys, and are thus more vulnerable. This simply isn’t true, and more research should be done. Boys have a strong tendency not to share problems, but also can fall victim to more homophobic blackmailing. Admitting to having been caught out in any gay online trickery is far more difficult. This is hinted at in the report.

The recommendations seem to be pretty good but sometimes I do wonder just what exactly academics get paid to say the obvious. ‘Don’t send noodz’ isn’t quite in the Watson and Crick zone of observation.

Read the report if you want. To be honest, it doesn’t say much. I could probably sum up most of the victim stories like this:

‘I was on cam with my boyfriend/girlfriend/complete stranger who I trusted more than anyone else in the whole world and I got carried away by the romance of it all. Turned out that he/she was a complete psychopath and I was totally shocked that anyone could threaten to post noodz because I had only read of it happening to just about everyone online”.

Carol Todd will no doubt welcome the report because as we all know Amanda was one of those innocents who just let her guard down for a second. On multiple occasions. In front of hundreds of viewers.

So it’s bye bye readers and bye bye Europe (we had Brexit today).

Hahahahahaha…..ad infinitum

Some videos on YouTube make me want to blow my brains out.

But not as much as this old bollocks.

Haha! The same mother who was so dreadful that Amanda left her to move in with Norm? Or the same mother who refused to have Amanda back in the house in October 2011? The humble mother who described herself as a rock-star mom? and so on and so forth.

https://philipjrose.wordpress.com/2014/07/18/heartless-cruelty/

https://philipjrose.wordpress.com/2014/06/24/amandas-begging-letter-to-mom/

Some people may be interested in Tim Garton Ash’s opinion of the internet as ‘history’s largest sewer’.

https://www.theguardian.com/books/2016/jun/22/free-speech-by-timothy-garton-ash-review

Or more depressing news https://www.theguardian.com/society/2016/jun/21/internet-used-in-eight-cases-of-child-sex-abuse-every-day-nspcc-finds

Meanwhile – take a break and listen to my new favourite podcaster

http://www.youmustrememberthispodcast.com/

Cheerio!

Miss Great Britain? Yes, I do

http://www.theguardian.com/media/2016/jun/17/miss-great-britain-title-sex-itv2-love-island-zara-holland-alex-bowen

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Have we come to this? Is this the end of civilisation? (add a hundred more shock-horror phrases).

Miss Great Britain loses her crown for doing it on TV. Or not quite doing it in real time, but hey, use your imagination.

She’s only doing what comes naturally because, as we know, everyone on the planet has sex on a TV show for a prize.

Some dumbass journalist on Jezebel will be no doubt tearing their hair out over the unfairness of it all and how we should accept the fact that she’s just a normal girl doing normal things. Or that she was  sell-out to the pageant industry. Or that she’s empowered because she’s exploiting herself. Or she’s not empowered because the Patriarchy took her crown away. She’ll get the usual week of fame – similar to a walk of shame, except there’s money in it – and her face will be seen all over the place.

Then some kid in school will put on a show for likes on YouNow and everyone will wonder where they got the idea from.

 

Cyberbullying in New Zealand

The New Zealand Herald has been doing a series about cyberbullying.

Is it informative? No, not really. By now, anyone who is bothered will know that Snapchat is full of noodz, that YikYak is a cesspit and that Ask.fm is a danger zone. It’s what makes this blog so mundane now – there really isn’t anything that’s new or hasn’t been said a gazillion times already.

What always tends to shine through, though, is the complete headless-chicken like reactions to it all when it comes to trying to provide any explanations or solutions.

From this article http://www.nzherald.co.nz/cyber-bullying/news/article.cfm?c_id=1504076&objectid=11657267

‘Police officers have been called into primary schools where boys as young as 8 had taken secret photos of girls getting undressed and posted the pictures online’. This is quite shocking, but I have a tendency to wonder just how sensationalist it is. The media likes to make us think that there are hundreds of primary school kids aged 8 are misbehaving, whereas usually it’s a one-off used to produce a clickbait headline.  However, it’s still quite frightening to think that the threat of online shenanigans is virtually omnipresent now.

‘YouthLine psychologist Bridget McNamara said more girls than ever, aged between 11 and 14, were seeking help over sexual exploitation’. I hate the words ‘sexual exploitation’ as I think it’s too cumbersome, implying a sense of criminality and perversion. If only there was one word for ’21st century online dumbassery’.

‘Many children were copying older siblings and celebrities and sending naked selfies on social media’.  Well, at least the influence of celebrities is noticed. As an avid reader of the Guardian, I am constantly reminded that looking at pics of women is a disgrace and I should probably poke my eyes out. Page Three is a misogynistic hate-crime that offends every woman in Christendom and then……Kim Kardashian is empowered by ‘breaking the Internet’. Ain’t she great? In my opinion, she should have been hounded off Instagram for her stupid naked selfie (even though it was coyly self-censored) not because of any lame indecency nonsense, but purely down to a sense of responsibility.

‘He said young children were also drawn into difficult online relationships with exploitative older people’. No shit, Sherlock.

‘Online Advisory Safety Group spokesperson Patrick Walsh said the prevalence of pornography had had a hugely adverse influence. “Students as young as 12 are exposed to explicit pornography and some of that’s quite violent, so they grow up at those critical ages when they’re forming relationships thinking the sort of behaviour they see on the web is actually normal’.

We know all this, surely? But what do people do? Governments are piss-poor when it comes to this. They bleat on about ‘there’s not much we can do’ whilst spending millions of dollars spying on the general public. Internet media watches your every move, uses every iota of online personal information to sell you junk, follows you from site to site. But dealing with porn? Oh no, that’s beyond us.

‘Parents should be aware of what their kids are getting into’. Ha ha! Who does that remind you of? If I had a penny for every time I’ve read about parents being aware, I’d be rich.

‘The carrot approach works with most students but [there is] the small group that just continually resist any attempts to change their behaviour. It … tends to be a group of young males, who think that they have an entitlement to harass [others].”. This is a dodgy statement. There is a huge tendency to focus on boys as perpetrators of online problems, but it’s not entirely true. It is still astonishing that there is a gendered attitude to cyberbullying, stemming from society’s tradition that girls are nice, boys are bad.  We can see that in the next observation.

‘Often [girls] who are … evident victims of … sexting and sextortion don’t wish to lay a complaint or are not very co-operative.”. There is a strong urge to perpetuate the girls as victims, males as perpetrators view, which yet again isn’t entirely true. Though research has shown that girls are more likely to be cyberbullied, it also shows that the majority of cyberbullying of girls is done by girls, and girls also extend their cyberbullying to boys. Though girls are more likely to have their pics placed online, it does happen to boys as well, as does sextortion. Males are far less likely to report sextortion because the feeling of shame is that much higher. Investigations about all forms of online problems should seek to be inclusive and fair.

So nothing new, like I said. What is more disheartening is that all these things have been known about for several years now. People have warned about access to porn for ages, people have tried to get parents to be more responsible, the anti-cyberbullying industry publishes reams of information, instigates tons of special days, puts videos on YouTube. We’ve known about YikYak, Ask.fm, Snapchat. Have we come very far? Nope.

 

Boring – University of Regina

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OK, let’s face it, this blog has kind of suffered from multiple cardiac arrests and is basically on life support.

Aydin Coban is due to be in court in Holland to do with extradition. No doubt that will be boring – I guess nothing will happen until after the Dutch case has been dealt with, then I can almost guarantee that he will serve his sentence there and that will be it. If the RCMP still want to pin the Todd situation on him it will take years, and I’m not sure they would be able to keep him in custody for the duration. Would it set some sort of precedent? If he’s done for the crimes in Europe, would he then face trial in the USA as well? Who knows?

The University of Regina still use the Amanda Todd story as an education tool.

For me (and probably nobody else) the University of Regina’s ECMP355 blog posts are like a magnet. Each person watches the same documentary, and each person comes away with a slightly different version of what there is to learn.

Try the latest addition: https://matthewleupold.wordpress.com/2016/06/13/the-internet-is-forever-be-careful-what-you-put-out-there/

Matthew gets a bit closer to the issues and his ‘She was simply adding fuel to the fire by continuing to go online to the same chat sites and pose for the camera’ shows the glimmer of a certain amount of insight, but of course comes very close to the victim-blaming scenario that gets such disapproval, as does a later opinion that ‘Part of the blame lies on the parents too’.

Latest addition: frighteningly Canadian https://brookegalbraith.wordpress.com/2016/07/03/puppy-vs-child/