I have to hand it to Carol Todd, she never overlooks an opportunity to cash in on another story. In this case, it’s the story of Rebecca Sedwick. I won’t say much about that, except to say that it shows up the worst aspect of all this nonsense in that the alleged bully, aged fourteen, is likely to end up being treated like a criminal and not a child. But hey, that’s the American way. And, of course, we cannot avoid the central hypocrisy – Amanda Todd was an innocent child who slept around, drank, exhibited herself online, took drugs but was forgiven because, after all, she was just a child incapable of knowing the consequences, whereas foolish children who write even more foolish comments on a Facebook page need to be locked up, cursed and punished.
So let’s just take a cold, unemotional look at this latest Carol Todd article.
Where do I start? Look at her picture. Does that show a mother full of grief, at odds with a world that she can’t quite understand, or is it the face of a woman who looks quite happy in the spotlight that her overwhelming failure as a mother brought upon her? Founder of the ‘Amanda Todd Legacy’ – a legacy of lies and even more bullying activity.
She starts the post with ‘Dear World’. She really has let all this get to her, which is a shame, but very typical of delusional people. I think she does believe that the whole world is reading her words, and that the whole world cares, but she’s quite wrong. Her sphere of influence barely exists beyond British Columbia now.
‘It makes me wonder again how kids can be that mean and cruel towards others. I always wonder — do their parents know?’ Oh dear, Carol, you really need to take more care with what you are writing. How many people have aimed the same question at you? Didn’t you know what Amanda was doing? And if you did, why did you not do anything to stop it, and why have you never been open and honest enough to admit the truth? These pesky parents – useless, aren’t they?
So – after an extraordinarily brief mention of Rebecca, we get straight on to Carol’s favourite subject because, let’s face it, that’s what really matters – that and not much more.
Now I ask you just to consider something that is odd. Does Carol actually write this stuff, or is it written by someone else? I only ask that because she writes ‘The same day as the one year date of Amanda Todd’s passing.’ Wouldn’t she write ‘my daughter’s’ or ‘Amanda’s’. It’s a strange thing to write. But let’s proceed.
Can we guess what the aim of this article is? Well, I can. Carol Todd will be hugely aware that the story is dying, and she will be increasingly frustrated that it hasn’t come to a satisfactory conclusion. Deep down (as it appears she is that sort of woman), she will be wanting revenge on all those people who she considers culpable – in her mind, the schoolkids and the imaginary predator (who we don’t hear so much about these days). She will also be getting scared that it’s all coming to an end, and that she will soon be left alone to come to terms with it all – not something to be welcomed. Her being busy has provided her with the ability to not have to sit down and think about where she went wrong. When she does, it will be horrendous.
So what is this article trying to do? Quite interesting. She desperately wants to blab out all the information she knows, and this is the closest she comes to it so far. But she also adds in a new aspect – an aspect of tantalising mystery.
We get a description of the fight scene. It took ‘planning’. Carol Todd loves her melodrama. There would have been no special ‘planning’ – that’s ridiculous, and she says it just to give it an air of criminality and subterfuge, of a hunt and an ambush. The girl knew what school Amanda went to, she went there with her mates, a few others turned up (no doubt after a bit of texting and Facebook activity) and the ‘fight’ took place. This sort of crap goes on in every school – perhaps not on a regular basis, but often enough not to be worthy of much attention. It’s not exactly ‘Gunfight at the OK Corral’.
Amanda’s choice not to file charges is strange. Firstly, it’s likely that she wouldn’t have welcomed a court case, as all the juicy details would have come out. What you have to remember here is that we have underage sexual activity, drink, drugs – the whole works, all of them illegal, even in British Columbia. And Amanda wouldn’t have wanted to risk all the flashing stuff being talked about – the girl might well have brought all this up in her defence. And, of course, Amanda would have been even more hated if she had brought charges. It certainly wasn’t done from an altruistic concern.
What is more remarkable is that the Todds didn’t press any charges or deal with it at the time. They had plenty of opportunity to deal with it there and then, to complain to the school about negligence and so on. And if Amanda was sexually active at the time, all of this would have been taken quite seriously. My view is that they couldn’t be bothered – remember that it was dad who was on the scene – Carol had hardly anything to do with her daughter until later. Carol never talks much about her absence of nearly two years, does she? As for Norm – well, who’s he?
We get the ‘moving city’ malarkey again. We already know why Amanda moved so often – it was the parental problems which ended up with her moving from the family home, to her dad’s place, then with dad to a new house, then back to mother. But of course, moving school again might have worked 40 years ago. It’s just that in the Internet age, everything follows you around. But again, pay attention. Amanda never moved that far physically. She was always in the Maple Ridge/Coquitlam area.
‘I wonder if THEIR parents know. I wonder how they feel now that young children are involved. Makes you think more deeply.’ OK – let’s be a bit more down-to-earth here. Carol Todd says she knows who the bullies are. Now, if it was me, I would have made damned sure that the parents knew. It is highly likely that, even with my own feelings of forgiveness and understanding, I might well have given in to going round to their houses, kicking the door down, and saying ‘If you ever let your kid do that again, I’ll personally take them to one side and skin them alive’. But being reasonable, even at this late date I would be tempted to gain some closure by trying to open up a dialogue with the parents. Carol Todd never knew what her child was doing – so why should these parents have a clue?
And now the mystery deepens. We get a couple of shots of comments. Where are these from? The quotes are quite vile, but not uncommon. Kids will say terrible things to appear tough, and Facebook and social media simply amplifies all the hatred. Note that the comments have been ‘liked’. I think we will never know why Amanda was so hated, and I won’t go into all the possible reasons here.
However, we can tell two new things here, and I think Carol Todd is, as usual, too stupid to realise what she has done. Or perhaps she has done it on purpose. Who knows? The second comment implies that it must have been well-known that Amanda was sexually active. I use the term sexually active, but maybe ‘sleep-around’ is more valid, for that is how she would have been seen by her peers. But we also have a name – Renan Tarras. Was that deliberate? If so, it’s quite a naughty move by Carol Todd to actually name a minor and possibly cause trouble. Is she looking for revenge on Renan?
‘I was listening the other day to someone who said they knew the kids involved. That there was remorse from some but not others.’ What kids do is almost inexplicable. There will, of course, be ones who feel an amount of shame, and there will be some borderline psychopaths who will never care. But we are not dealing with a clear-cut story here. Amanda made enemies, simple as that. She wasn’t victimised for being gay, too thin, too fat. There was more to it than that and if Carol Todd ever decides to at least try to tell the truth of the story, maybe we’ll know fully what went on.
‘To be left alone in peace but still after six months, one of the girls and her friends couldn’t leave Amanda alone. They decided to continue to harass her even further which created more stress and trauma that she had been learning to get rid of.’ This is an unfortunate and misleading statement. Amanda was very much the architect of her own downfall, and her September video was just about the worst thing she could have done. Readers will know that it was all a pack of lies. There are rumours about other videos presented under the isabella identity – videos that were designed to provoke responses, of her smoking weed, and getting at other people in her life, and generally being provocative. In simple terms, she kept the fight going, but she did so with lies. Even in her September video, she writes that she expects hate. She should never have been allowed to do it, but it’s too late now. Unfortunately, her September video does not reflect a story of harassment, stress and trauma – it reflects the stupidity of a young girl and her even worse parents in not knowing how to avoid conflict. It is an unfortunate thing about the Internet – put yourself out there, and it’s pretty obvious that you will attract haters. Amanda never realised that, even after the cops came in December 2010. But all that has been covered here. And it continues to amaze me that Carol Todd still allows the interest in her daughter to carry on, knowing full well that it’s the nudity that keeps the story alive – nothing else.
The rest of the article is the usual tripe – painting the world purple, the snowflakes, we’ve heard it all before.
But I leave you with this. If Carol Todd is so genuinely against all the evils of online behaviour, especially bullying, why has she never spoken out against the anti-Kody Maxson Facebook pages that threaten death? And while we’re at it – why do her supporters appear to blame Facebook or, more recently, Ask.fm, but fail to mention sites like cameracaptures, Omegle and so on? Why is that aspect of the story swept under the carpet when, for so many reasons, it should be central to trying to come to terms with the truth behind all this? Or is Carol Todd simply trying to blame everyone else but herself?
News just in: The comments in the post were edited – I assume because Carol Todd knew she would be causing trouble. But too late – Renan Tarras is the new name in the frame. He’s on Facebook as ‘Renan Mangwhoree Tarras’ and perhaps also ‘Renan Tarras’ – 16 years old, from Canada. Maybe even Chilliwack. Anyone who cares to follow this up and provide more information would be doing me a great favour.