Recycled for newer visitors

cutieelover1a

Copied from April, 2013

Sorry about the jpg. Just click on it.

This is Amanda Todd on BlogTV.

As you will see, the capture is from December 5th, 2010. That’s ten days after ‘cutieelover’ aka Amanda Todd joined BlogTV. What she did, or where she was prior to that, I don’t know at the moment. This is eighteen days before the police arrived on her doorstep on December 23rd.

Note that the BlogTV rules are absolutely clear. I have criticised BlogTV (now YouNow) for allowing things, but to give them credit, they were quite clear about the rules, and very quick to ban people who broke them. There is no real excuse for not knowing that nudity was frowned upon. As we know, cutiielover was banned twelve days later.

Amanda is quite well-known. It is possible that, from the commencement of her membership of BlogTV on November 26th, she could have received quite a following – reputations grow fast online.

Note: this may not be the full online conversation for December 5th. I originally thought that this might be the beginning of it all, but it is possible that there were earlier comments.

The first comment available is a cordial ‘sexy’. The second comment from cutieelover is – well, what? – poignant? Could that be the word? I don’t know. Or it could just be straightforward. Who can tell?

‘im not like that anymore’

What can anyone read into this? It sounds quite forlorn, like she’s realised something, and has decided to stop. On it’s own, it sounds like it’s a finality, but, sadly, we know that just a few days later she was flashing again, and that this behaviour continued on for quite some time. Can we deduce any period of time from this? Like I said – and I hope – her reputation might have simply grown in the previous two weeks, but I retain a slight idea that these are the words of someone who has been quite known for some time. But that is irrelevant, really.

It looks like one of her fans issues a ‘sigh’ of disappointment. Or of shared sadness?

I guess that the next comment is from someone new to the room: ‘what were u like’.  The answer is horrible.

‘a slut’.

The newbie answers a plaintive and shocked ‘oh’. Someone posts a picture.

‘lol….i kinda like sluts’ – seen as positive feedback?

The newbie asks her what made her change her mind.

‘idk why’ is Kon*** basically answering his own statement two lines above.

Another person enters the room.

Dun*** writes: ‘she is a slut she still is 1’. How is that meant? How is that taken? A joke? An insult? Horrifyingly aggressive male words? Or teen nonsense?

And then we have it:

‘all my friends found my pic’

Not ‘I’ve been stalked’. Not ‘I’ve been blackmailed’. All her friends found her pic.

Carol Todd Censorship

https://plus.google.com/communities/115815543263312624519

Well, things had become very boring until just recently.

Having watched the usual Carol Todd sanctimony over the last few months, I had kind of decided to leave it alone. She preaches the ‘Snowflake’ story (puke, puke) but at least some of the dimwits who listen to her might try to stop their own precious little flakes from getting their kit off online. The Amanda Todd fairy tale serves its purpose to a certain extent.

Anyways. To cut a long story short I left a comment on a blog post hinting heavily that the story wasn’t quite what it seems. Oh well. The Todd censorship machine acted pretty quickly. This is taken from the linked information.

‘Hey everyone,
So… I had a very surreal experience tonight. Carol Todd (Amanda’s mother) added me on Facebook and proceeded to message me information regarding the man “Philip Rose” who had commented on my blog. Apparently, this man has been overly obsessed with Amanda’s story and has gone so far to harass her family and friends. He also portrays himself as someone who personally knew Amanda, which Carol informed me he most definitely did not. Obviously, I was quick to share the information on this Google+ page about this man out of excitement for getting exposure on my blog from someone who was seemingly close to Amanda, and I apologize for that. It’s very ironic/pretty neat to be learning about authentic digital citizenship while experiencing it first-hand through this situation. I just wanted to let you guy’s know the truth about this man (as in: do not take his words seriously —(Carol even asked me to delete his messages.. which I did.) Sorry to lead falsified information however, it resulted in a REALLY awesome connection with Carol Todd… So, you win some you lose some, hey? Have a wonderful Easter’.

Haha! Good old Carol.

From the comments below the post.

‘Carol Todd also contacted me regarding my blog post and the comments I received from Phillip Rose. I was actually a bit creeped out because she contacted me via text message this weekend.. I’m still not entirely sure how she found my phone number. After I didn’t reply to her text, she contacted me through Facebook’.

Haha again!

However, I take offence at the next comment.

‘I’d encourage all of you to google Phillip Rose – you’ll find that there’s all sorts of stuff online about him and his obsession with Amanda Todd’s case (although, remember to be critical readers of that information as well). We can thank the Internet for teaching a very real lesson on the need to be digitally literate! Carol Todd has actually agreed to come speak for part of our class on Wednesday night (thanks to Gillian Maher). I would suggest that if “Phillip Rose” has posted on your blog, that you consider deleting his comments ….or find some way to address what he said, as it seems clear that he is spreading misinformation‘.

Misinformation? Misinformation? How very dare she?

Fuck me. Everyone knows that this is possibly the best blog for anything remotely truthful about Amanda Todd.

As an extra, I thought this was rather cute. On a tumblr account dedicated to Amanda.

http://heavensgainedanangel.tumblr.com/

‘I did some research and theres an article that sais amanda was not on omegle and chatroullete that she was on naughty sites doing naughty things i had so much heart for this girl but now i may think other i just need the truth to clear my head she felt like a friend when i lernt her story but now i feel like she left out parts she didnt want the world to know but idk maybe the guy who said this was wrong – thoughts? google amanda the real truth its the link called read all about the amanda todd’.

Answer:

‘Amanda did used to go on Omegle and sometimes with friends, but not to do anything “naughty” as far as I’m aware. And she didn’t go on “Naughty sites”.I didn’t google or look for the link as there is a lot of untruths about Amanda on the internet and I would rather distance myself from that and focus on the good.
What you have to understand is that we are never 100%  going to know Amanda’s whole story and as strangers to Amanda and her family, neither do we have any right to.
There are probably some bad things unrelated to what you mentioned ^ that Amanda probably did. But, that happens, she was learning and growing and making mistakes along the way just like everyone else.
Amanda did a lot of growing up in the last couple of years of her life and I think with age she realized any mistakes she had made and was working on fixing them and moving forward.
Be careful about what you read on the internet especially when it comes to Amanda, as there are some horrible things said about her, her family and friends and a lot of them are untruths and rumours made by people who are obviously struggling with themselves and needing someone else to bring down.
I hope this helps and I’m sorry for the late reply. x’.

It’s interesting, in a way. Katia Hildebrandt (one of the commenters) writes as if I am an example of misinformation, when the complete opposite is true. Yet it’s unlikely that she will believe anything written here even though there’s a ton of evidence behind it. I am, as usual, struck by the hypocrisy of modern SJWs whose first reaction is to censor any debate.

Laters, folks.

 

 

Amanda Todd – One step closer to the truth.

cutieelover1a

Copied from April, 2013 – re-written 7th April 2016

Click on the jpg above to make it readable.

There is a lot of grief in this – not just for the main participants, but for those other, more innocent victims of the witch hunts, the hatred, the suspicions. And for all those people from all across the world, all those genuine people, all those kids who have cried about this, it’s a terrible shame.

We have – and it saddens me to say this – been severely tricked and misled.

The details I have posted today are true.

As you will see, the capture is from December 5th, 2010. That’s ten days after ‘cutieelover’ aka Amanda Todd joined BlogTV. What she did, or where she was prior to that, I don’t know at the moment. This is eighteen days before the police arrived on her doorstep on December 23rd.

Note that the BlogTV rules are absolutely clear. There is no real excuse for not knowing that nudity was frowned upon. As we know, cutiielover was banned twelve days later.

Amanda is quite well-known. It is possible that, from the commencement of her membership of BlogTV on November 26th, she could have received quite a following – reputations grow fast online.

The first comment available is a cordial ‘sexy’. The second comment from cutieelover is – well, what? – poignant? Could that be the word? I don’t know. Or it could just be straightforward. Who can tell?

‘im not like that anymore’

What can anyone read into this? It sounds quite forlorn, like she’s realised something, and has decided to stop. On it’s own, it sounds like it’s a finality, but, sadly, we know that just a few days later she was flashing again, and that this behaviour continued on for quite some time. Can we deduce any period of time from this? Like I said – and I hope – her reputation might have simply grown in the previous two weeks, but I retain a slight idea that these are the words of someone who has been quite known for some time. But that is irrelevant, really.

It looks like one of her fans issues a ‘sigh’ of disappointment. Or of shared sadness?

The next comment is from someone new to the room: ‘what were u like’.  The answer is horrible.

‘a slut’

What in God’s name would make a girl say this? It is actually Amanda herself who first uses the term to describe her own behaviour.

There are two reasons why she should have said this. The first is quite a cold-hearted suggestion; the second is gut-wrenchingly sad. I would prefer to choose the first. It kills me more to choose the second.

The first reason: Amanda is relatively proud of being seen as a slut. It’s a sort of show-off, attention-seeking phrase – ‘Look at me! I’m a slut! I’m not a mundane nobody, I’m someone who boys queue up to see! I’m the centre of attention, and that makes me feel important!’

Look at the news. We live in a society where sluttish behaviour makes you rich and famous. You know the names, I have no need to make a list. Reality TV praises the slut, denigrates the nice people. Look at the magazines aimed at later teens, read by 12-year-olds. In the UK, it’s ‘Nuts’ and ‘Zoo’. And those idiotic cretins who invented ‘slut walks’ – be proud that you look like a slut! Have they ANY idea what they are doing? (OK, reader, I’ll get down off my soap box)

Like so many words these days, slut has lost its meaning. It’s tossed around school playgrounds as easily as the old words like ‘fatty’ and ‘foureyes’.

The second reason: Amanda might have had such low self-esteem that she had become used to calling herself a slut. Why she would do this, I don’t know. From family background, I would guess the origin lay elsewhere. There are plenty of vile parents who will destroy their kids’ self-worth, but I don’t see that here. If anything, it might have been the opposite from her parents – they might have built her ego up to massive  proportions.

So why would she tag herself a slut? Did she go online, get naked, expect to get praise but get called a slut? Did she find that the only way to get the BlogTV viewers interested was to behave like a slut? It is extraordinary how dependent kids are on online feedback, and we know that Amanda was addicted to it.

Another, less probable but viable view is this: we know that Amanda possibly suffered from learning difficulties. She may well have had a huge sense that she was, in some way, a disappointment and failure. She had tried desperately to publicise herself online and elsewhere – singing, cheerleading – but it looks like the only thing she, as a person, felt that she truly excelled at, and that got her the attention, was to be a slut.

I must move on. The newbie answers a plaintive and shocked ‘oh’.

‘lol….i kinda like sluts’

The newbie asks her what made her change her mind.

‘idk why’ is Kon*** basically answering his own statement two lines above.

Another person enters the room.

Dun*** writes: ‘she is a slut she still is 1’. How is that meant? How is that taken? A joke? An insult? Horrifyingly aggressive male words? Or teen nonsense?

And then we have it:

‘all my friends found my pic’

Not ‘I’ve been stalked’.

Not ‘I’ve been blackmailed’.

All her friends found her pic.

To me, this proves that the blackmail case is now closed. She said this to cover herself. There WAS a lot of stuff going on a la Peyton Ramsey, and it’s all very convoluted. But you can strike ‘blackmail’ and ‘stalker’ from the notebook for now.

 

 

Amanda Todd – One step closer to the truth.

cutieelover1a

Copied from April, 2013

Sorry about the jpg. Just click on it.

As soon as one thing seems to get resolved, something else crops up that turns a lot of the story upside down again. There is a lot of grief in this – not just for the main participants, but for those other, more innocent victims of the witch hunts, the hatred, the suspicions. And for all those people from all across the world, all those genuine people, all those kids who have cried about this, it’s a terrible shame.

We have – and it saddens me to say this – been severely tricked.  I thought that  I would be jumping for joy as I learned that more and more of what I was saying was coming true, but instead I’m simply becoming more disheartened.

The details I have posted today are true. I will seek to evaluate them as clinically and as precisely as I possibly can. At first, I was just tempted to post the screen cap and leave it up to readers to make up their own minds. But, as usual, I will try to analyse what is behind all of this.

As you will see, the capture is from December 5th, 2010. That’s ten days after ‘cutieelover’ aka Amanda Todd joined BlogTV. What she did, or where she was prior to that, I don’t know at the moment. This is eighteen days before the police arrived on her doorstep on December 23rd.

Note that the BlogTV rules are absolutely clear. I have criticised BlogTV (now YouNow) for allowing things, but to give them credit, they were quite clear about the rules, and very quick to ban people who broke them. There is no real excuse for not knowing that nudity was frowned upon. As we know, cutiielover was banned twelve days later.

Amanda is quite well-known. It is possible that, from the commencement of her membership of BlogTV on November 26th, she could have received quite a following – reputations grow fast online.

Note: this may not be the full online conversation for December 5th. I originally thought that this might be the beginning of it all, but it is possible that there were earlier comments.

The first comment available is a cordial ‘sexy’. The second comment from cutieelover is – well, what? – poignant? Could that be the word? I don’t know. Or it could just be straightforward. Who can tell?

‘im not like that anymore’

What can anyone read into this? It sounds quite forlorn, like she’s realised something, and has decided to stop. On it’s own, it sounds like it’s a finality, but, sadly, we know that just a few days later she was flashing again, and that this behaviour continued on for quite some time. Can we deduce any period of time from this? Like I said – and I hope – her reputation might have simply grown in the previous two weeks, but I retain a slight idea that these are the words of someone who has been quite known for some time. But that is irrelevant, really.

It looks like one of her fans issues a ‘sigh’ of disappointment. Or of shared sadness?

I guess that the next comment is from someone new to the room: ‘what were u like’.  The answer is horrible.

‘a slut’

What in God’s name would make a girl say this? Here are some attempts to explain, but first let me say that it is significant and important. It points strongly towards why so many people used the word ‘slut’ to describe her – it’s the term she has applied to herself. It is actually Amanda herself who first uses the term to describe her own behaviour. People would have read these comments, and no doubt her friends would have heard her say it.

There are two reasons why she should have said this. The first is quite a cold-hearted suggestion; the second is gut-wrenchingly sad. I would prefer to choose the first. It kills me more to choose the second.

The first reason: Amanda is relatively proud of being seen as a slut. It’s a sort of show-off, attention-seeking phrase – ‘Look at me! I’m a slut! I’m not a mundane nobody, I’m someone who boys queue up to see! I’m the centre of attention, and that makes me feel important!’

Look at the news. We live in a society where sluttish behaviour makes you rich and famous. You know the names, I have no need to make a list. Reality TV praises the slut, denigrates the nice people. Look at the magazines aimed at later teens, read by 12-year-olds. In the UK, it’s ‘Nuts’ and ‘Zoo’. And those idiotic cretins who invented ‘slut walks’ – be proud that you look like a slut! Have they ANY idea what they are doing? (OK, reader, I’ll get down off my soap box)

Like so many words these days, slut has lost its meaning. It’s tossed around school playgrounds as easily as the old words like ‘fatty’ and ‘foureyes’. There is a distinct possibility that Amanda uses the term ‘slut’ as a badge of distinction.

The second reason: Amanda might have had such low self-esteem that she had become used to calling herself a slut. Why she would do this, I don’t know. From family background, I would guess the origin lay elsewhere. There are plenty of vile parents who will destroy their kids’ self-worth, but I don’t see that here. If anything, it might have been the opposite from her parents – they might have built her ego up to massive  proportions.

So why would she tag herself a slut? Did she go online, get naked, expect to get praise but get called a slut? Did she find that the only way to get the BlogTV viewers interested was to behave like a slut? It is extraordinary how dependent kids are on online feedback, and we know that Amanda was addicted to it.

Another, less probable but viable view is this: we know that Amanda possibly suffered from learning difficulties. She may well have had a huge sense that she was, in some way, a disappointment and failure. She had tried desperately to publicise herself online and elsewhere – singing, cheerleading – but it looks like the only thing she, as a person, felt that she truly excelled at, and that got her the attention, was to be a slut.

I must move on. The newbie answers a plaintive and shocked ‘oh’. Someone posts a picture.

‘lol….i kinda like sluts’ – seen as positive feedback?

The newbie asks her what made her change her mind.

‘idk why’ is Kon*** basically answering his own statement two lines above.

Another person enters the room.

Dun*** writes: ‘she is a slut she still is 1’. How is that meant? How is that taken? A joke? An insult? Horrifyingly aggressive male words? Or teen nonsense?

And then we have it:

‘all my friends found my pic’

Not ‘I’ve been stalked’. Not ‘I’ve been blackmailed’. All her friends found her pic. To me, this proves that the blackmail case is now closed. She said this to cover herself. There WAS a lot of stuff going on a la Peyton Ramsey, and it’s all very convoluted. But you can strike ‘blackmail’ and ‘stalker’ from the notebook for now.

A trip down memory lane

cutieelover1a

Going way back in time for the new audience. This seems so long ago now. This is the proof that Amanda was up to mischief before that special photo from December 18th, and that all her friends found the picture, not some cockamamie imaginary stalker.

Sorry about the jpg. Just click on it.

Well, I have to admit that I have put this off as long as I can. Last night I hardly slept, and regular readers will know that I find all of this emotionally and mentally draining.

I am tangled and confused. As soon as one thing seems to get resolved, something else crops up that turns a lot of the story upside down again. There is a lot of grief in this – not just for the main participants, but for those other, more innocent victims of the witch hunts, the hatred, the suspicions. And for all those people from all across the world, all those genuine people, all those kids who have cried about this, it’s a terrible shame.

We have – and it saddens me to say this – been severely tricked.  I thought that  I would be jumping for joy as I learned that more and more of what I was saying was coming true, but instead I’m simply becoming more disheartened.

The details I have posted today are true. I will seek to evaluate them as clinically and as precisely as I possibly can. At first, I was just tempted to post the screen cap and leave it up to readers to make up their own minds. But, as usual, I will try to analyse what is behind all of this.

As you will see, the capture is from December 5th, 2010. That’s ten days after ‘cutieelover’ aka Amanda Todd joined BlogTV. What she did, or where she was prior to that, I don’t know at the moment. This is eighteen days before the police arrived on her doorstep on December 23rd.

Note that the BlogTV rules are absolutely clear. I have criticised BlogTV (now YouNow) for allowing things, but to give them credit, they were quite clear about the rules, and very quick to ban people who broke them. There is no real excuse for not knowing that nudity was frowned upon. As we know, cutiielover was banned twelve days later.

Amanda is quite well-known. It is possible that, from the commencement of her membership of BlogTV on November 26th, she could have received quite a following – reputations grow fast online.

Note: this may not be the full online conversation for December 5th. I originally thought that this might be the beginning of it all, but it is possible that there were earlier comments.

The first comment available is a cordial ‘sexy’. The second comment from cutieelover is – well, what? – poignant? Could that be the word? I don’t know. Or it could just be straightforward. Who can tell?

‘im not like that anymore’

What can anyone read into this? It sounds quite forlorn, like she’s realised something, and has decided to stop. On it’s own, it sounds like it’s a finality, but, sadly, we know that just a few days later she was flashing again, and that this behaviour continued on for quite some time. Can we deduce any period of time from this? Like I said – and I hope – her reputation might have simply grown in the previous two weeks, but I retain a slight idea that these are the words of someone who has been quite known for some time. But that is irrelevant, really.

It looks like one of her fans issues a ‘sigh’ of disappointment. Or of shared sadness?

I guess that the next comment is from someone new to the room: ‘what were u like’.  The answer is horrible.

‘a slut’

What in God’s name would make a girl say this? Here are some attempts to explain, but first let me say that it is significant and important. It points strongly towards why so many people used the word ‘slut’ to describe her – it’s the term she has applied to herself. It is actually Amanda herself who first uses the term to describe her own behaviour. People would have read these comments, and no doubt her friends would have heard her say it.

(God, this is difficult!) There are two reasons why she should have said this. The first is quite a cold-hearted suggestion; the second is gut-wrenchingly sad. I would prefer to choose the first. It kills me more to choose the second.

The first reason: Amanda is relatively proud of being seen as a slut. It’s a sort of show-off, attention-seeking phrase – ‘Look at me! I’m a slut! I’m not a mundane nobody, I’m someone who boys queue up to see! I’m the centre of attention, and that makes me feel important!’

Look at the news. We live in a society where sluttish behaviour makes you rich and famous. You know the names, I have no need to make a list. Reality TV praises the slut, denigrates the nice people. Look at the magazines aimed at later teens, read by 12-year-olds. In the UK, it’s ‘Nuts’ and ‘Zoo’. And those idiotic cretins who invented ‘slut walks’ – be proud that you look like a slut! Have they ANY idea what they are doing? (OK, reader, I’ll get down off my soap box)

Like so many words these days, slut has lost its meaning. It’s tossed around school playgrounds as easily as the old words like ‘fatty’ and ‘foureyes’. There is a distinct possibility that Amanda uses the term ‘slut’ as a badge of distinction.

The second reason: (this is appallingly sad) Amanda might have had such low self-esteem that she had become used to calling herself a slut. Why she would do this, I don’t know. From family background, I would guess the origin lay elsewhere. There are plenty of vile parents who will destroy their kids’ self-worth, but I don’t see that here. If anything, it might have been the opposite from her parents – they might have built her ego up to massive  proportions.

So why would she tag herself a slut? Did she go online, get naked, expect to get praise but get called a slut? Did she find that the only way to get the BlogTV viewers interested was to behave like a slut? It is extraordinary how dependent kids are on online feedback, and we know that Amanda was addicted to it.

Another, less probable but viable view is this: we know that Amanda possibly suffered from learning difficulties. She may well have had a huge sense that she was, in some way, a disappointment and failure. She had tried desperately to publicise herself online and elsewhere – singing, cheerleading – but it looks like the only thing she, as a person, felt that she truly excelled at, and that got her the attention, was to be a slut.

I must move on. The newbie answers a plaintive and shocked ‘oh’. Someone posts a picture.

‘lol….i kinda like sluts’ – seen as positive feedback?

The newbie asks her what made her change her mind.

‘idk why’ is Kon*** basically answering his own statement two lines above.

Another person enters the room.

Dun*** writes: ‘she is a slut she still is 1’. How is that meant? How is that taken? A joke? An insult? Horrifyingly aggressive male words? Or teen nonsense?

And then we have it:

‘all my friends found my pic’

Not ‘I’ve been stalked’. Not ‘I’ve been blackmailed’. All her friends found her pic. To me, this proves that the blackmail case is now closed. She said this to cover herself. There WAS a lot of stuff going on a la Peyton Ramsey, and it’s all very convoluted. But you can strike ‘blackmail’ and ‘stalker’ from the notebook for now.

I will leave it there for now. I’ve said enough for today. God only knows what the flak from this will be. Tomorrow, there will be more about what really happened. It might take me time.

So – return to this blog – same Philip time, same Philip channel (that’s old skool Batman, just in case no-one knew).

By the way. I gave Carol Todd as much time as possible to contribute, and I said I would not do this if she contacted me. There was no response, except from one of her supporters, so I know she received the communication. It’s up to them to tell the truth, not me.

https://philipjrose.wordpress.com/2013/04/29/the-continuing-saga-of-amanda-todd-part-two-for-today/

OK – just one more

Well. Many of you will know that throughout this blog I have stated MANY times that the story is never what it seems, and that, almost without shadow of a doubt, most cyberbullying cases are far more complex. You will also note that I have repeatedly put the blame on dysfunctional parenting and basic family problems, far more than any other aspect. And those of you who have believed me have known that most of what I have said is true.

Now: the latest Rebecca Sedwick news.

http://abcnews.go.com/US/wireStory/portrait-bullied-girl-emerges-case-file-23225852

Here are some quotes:

‘a spotty relationship with her father and had just broken up with an online boyfriend’ – sound familiar?

‘She was concerned about her mother and stepfather’s fighting, had been involuntarily committed’ – sound familiar?

And what is most telling is this:

“What is strange is that despite solid evidence of challenges associated with Rebecca’s home life, for some unknown reason, the detectives chose to spend all of their time in middle school ‘drama land’ trying to find someone to arrest,” Willard said.

Somehow, my suggestions that it was Amanda’s home life that wrecked her seem more and more plausible as time goes on.

And to all you Canadians out there – are you not at all perturbed that there has been NO coroner’s report, NO final say by police after their long investigation, NO conclusion whatsoever?

To add balance, Rebecca’s mother comments:

http://www.theledger.com/article/20140407/NEWS/140409385

She says ‘”It just seems like people are trying to dig into my personal life and trying to point the blame at something.”‘ but then we see ‘at least two episodes of deliberately “scratching” herself in a bid for her father’s attention ‘ and an odd episode in which ‘child protective authorities were called after Rebecca told friends she was abused by her mother’. So – everything was fine, but everything wasn’t fine. Pick the version of truth you think is best.

Another article from another point of view:

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/advice/tips/twelve-year-old-bully

‘Web searches on her cell phone revealed her anxieties: “What percent is considered overweight at 13?” “How many Advil to die?” “How do I get the blade out of my razor?” On the morning of the suicide, she had texted two friends: “I wanted to say bye … for, like, ever.”‘

‘Her mother was frantic. “You’re not going to put her in cuffs, are you?” she begged, but they did, leading Katelyn to their car as her mother screamed, “They’re taking my baby!”

Looking at the last quote, is this REALLY what needs to happen? It’s all shameful.

More:

http://www.csmonitor.com/USA/Society/2014/0409/Rebecca-Sedwick-suicide-what-the-police-files-show-and-it-s-not-bullying

Are people really that slow, after I have been saying stuff like this for over a year?

‘And now, reviews of the police files for the case paint a far more complex picture of what Rebecca was dealing with – including family problems with her mother, stepfather, and father; a history of self-cutting, and a breakup with an Internet boyfriend just before her suicide. The reviews of the police files also reveal little evidence of the online bullying that Judd said was so pervasive.’

‘The files have caused some bullying experts to criticize the way in which the case was handled and to paint it as a cautionary tale of too quickly drawing assumptions along the accepted story line that the public and news media now look for – blaming suicide on bullying.

‘My conclusion is that his brazen assertion had absolutely no basis in any evidence.”

‘A review of police files shows that Rebecca was involuntarily committed and evaluated for “suicidal ideation” nearly a year before her death, and that “Rebecca’s stressors were the arguments between her mom and stepdad and Rebecca’s biological father not being a constant part of her life.”

“Arguments and disagreements over a boyfriend is teen drama; it’s not bullying,”

‘Screen shots of “anonymous” comments made to Rebecca on Ask.fm, a social networking tool, have been released, saying things like “Nobody cares about you” and “you seriously deserve to die.” But the tone of the “conversations” at least raises the possibility that they were an example of “suicide ideation” on Rebecca’s part and that she posted them herself, says Willard, noting that there are other examples of that occurring.

‘Willard agrees, saying she’s troubled by the rapidity with which the public seems to want to point fingers at other children for almost every suicide these days, even when the evidence isn’t there – or to “blame and arrest children” while ignoring other factors that may have been even more of a driver toward suicide.

‘She’s concerned, too, that publicizing a message that bullying leads to suicide may inadvertently be leading to more suicides, as students take home the message that “if they’re being bullied, suicide is an option they should consider.’

Wasn’t I so far ahead of the curve that I was in the next century? I have stated this time and time again, whilst the world expert Carol Todd has simply spewed out repetitive and biased rubbish. Oh well.

Addition: never let it be said that Philip doesn’t go the whole way. The Sheriff involved in this fiasco does not have a good track record:

http://www.tampabay.com/news/publicsafety/crime/why-didnt-polk-co-sheriffs-office-investigate-deputys-role-in-crash/789749

http://www.baynews9.com/content/news/baynews9/news/article.html/content/news/articles/bn9/2014/1/22/polk_deputy_accused_.html?cid=rss

http://www.tampabay.com/news/publicsafety/polk-sheriff-grady-judd-makes-his-name-on-moral-outrage/1149570

‘That excitement and adrenaline rush is still what wakes him up before the alarm goes off most days. When big stories break, Sheriff Judd is right in the middle of it.When deputies fired dozens of rounds at a man who had killed one of their own, the sheriff was asked why deputies shot the suspect sixty eight times. Judd replied, “Because we ran out of bullets.”  His response got the attention of the nation.’

The man’s a nutcase. A great example of what it takes to be a true American.

 

Digital stupidity?

http://forums.studentdoctor.net/showthread.php?p=14559645

I came across this forum entitled ‘what to make of…..digital stupidity’. This is the first post to the thread:

‘I have been seeing a rash of cases in teen age girls who….. are just plain stupid with digital technology. By this I mean sending nude photos of themselves to grown men (via phone, webcams, emails), or soliciting sex online. I have 8 girls in the hospital and 4 of them fall under this, while another one was involved in child porn. Their parents found out and brought them in for evaluation. Thing is, they don’t really meet criteria for mania or depression. Certainly low self-esteem (and daddy issues), but other than filing a CPS and police report I’m not sure why they are in the hospital.
Given the recent focus on online shaming and subsequent suicides like Amanda Todd and Audrie Pott I’m wondering if a case could be made the they are a danger to themselves even though they engaged in these activities of their own free will? Most of these girls are upset that we informed the authorities and even try to protect the perpetrators.

My question is: are such activities really a criteria to hold them? And if so how should I be wording it to make it sound so?’

Of course, this started me thinking about the relevance of this to my blog.  Is this guy behind the curve or what? This has been going on for some time, and for some reason he’s only just cottoned on?

Regular readers of this blog will know that I have been trying to get to grips with all this, and, to a certain extent, to try and shout and scream that the Amanda Todd story is much more centred on inappropriate Internet activity than it is on bullying. And regular readers will know of people like Roy (amongst many others) who have been trying to deal with a lot of this. However, the Todd supporters have deliberately tried to suppress any talk of Amanda’s online behaviour, thus losing a massive opportunity to understand this relatively new phenomenon.

But there are other interesting points. The guy talks of a rash of cases. It would have been good if he could have been more precise, but one can guess that he means quite a few, and from the tone of the post, it sounds as if this is quite recent. And you can bet that if he’s seeing it, it will be prevalent in many other places. Yet when I have written about it here, and hinted at the size and scope of the problem, it seems to be ignored.

He goes on to write of soliciting sex online. I’m not quite sure what is implied here – soliciting on a prostitute level, or just for fun? Some of this sounds as if it could be straight out of the Amanda Todd story. Although I have found no concrete evidence, rumours abounded about Amanda working on sites where gifts would be sent (hence the repeated tag of ‘whore’ as someone who sold herself), and what went on in real life is anyone’s guess.

But let’s move on.

This guy has eight girls in hospital. In hospital, godddammit! Surely this just shows how odd this all is – that girls are ending up in a mental hospital because nobody can really deal with the problem. Something has gone seriously, seriously wrong if parents are having to take their kids to what is essentially ‘online porn rehab’. Is it really so shocking for parents that they can only rationalise it by saying their kids are mentally ill?

But it can’t be a mental illness, can it? We have seen Histrionic Personality Disorder mentioned a few posts ago. This person writes that it doesn’t come under the mania or depression category, though, within the Amanda Todd story, it seems that depression was used as a smoke-screen to cover all the shenanigans. But can we find a photo or instance of Amanda being unhappy? No.

Low-self esteem. A big question. It is my view that with Amanda it was the opposite – it was arrogance that took her into the online world. It might sound harsh, but I think she actually thought she was God’s gift, hence the inability to comprehend why people didn’t like her. She wasn’t looking for love in all the wrong places – she was looking for attention at any cost.

Daddy issues. Well, I have to admit to laughing at this. Amanda chose to stay with Norm for two years – two years in which she got a lot worse. And her Facebook identity was ‘foreverdaddysgirl’ – something which has an air of salacious teen yuckiness about it, and which, no doubt, alienated Carol from her daughter even more.

As usual, we have the silliness of mixing up Audrie and Amanda – we are only missing Rehteah Parsons et al. These stories are different – the other girls were very much victims, and didn’t parade themselves around for attention like Aurora, Jessi, Amanda and our old friend (or should that be fiend?) Peyton Ramsey. It annoys me that in all this, simple laziness mixes these stories together.

Finally, we get the very important nub of the problem – ‘they are a danger to themselves’, ‘they engaged in these activities of their own free will’, ‘try to protect the perpetrators’.

Throughout this wretched story (for that’s what it has become) I have often stated that some girls are the main protagonists in their own downfall, yet this has been furiously attacked by many people. We have. on one hand, ignorant and uninformed Feminists (with a big F) who blame all men and on the other hand, very suspicious men who also blame all men. We have the lunatics who want to blame adult men, when over and over again it has been proven that the vast majority of this stuff goes on within a contemporary peer group. We have idiotic mothers and fathers who seem to point blank refuse to accept the fact that girls can be doing this, and either stick their heads in the sand or try to turn t into some sort of modern-day aberration caused by everything (even, in this case, mental illness) except their own pathetic inadequacies. And we have the likes of Carol Todd and her supporters, desperately trying to re-write a history in which Amanda was like one of the girls from Little Women, a fictional sugar-and-spice piece of perfection who was brutally treated. All poppycock.

We have to come to terms with teenage sexuality and stop just ignoring it. We have gone well past the days when a girl would flash behind the bike sheds for a packet of fags and only a handful would witness it; the days of school playground gossip, in which the usually untrue rumours would stay within the confines of the campus, are gone. The Internet and all it entails gives these girls the perfect outlet for displaying their newfound bits and pieces worldwide. And they do so quite willingly, and quite aware that their attributes will gain attention. It is just very sad that not all of them realise the consequences, and a few – very few, in reality – will suffer for it.

The idea that the Amanda Todd story is one of bullying is so stupid that words fail me. It’s a complex story that brings together so many different strands that it is almost impossible to explain. But until people wake up to what really occurred, vulnerable teenage girls will continue to get themselves into these predicaments.

I am hoping that this post will stimulate some arguments, but I have my doubts. I just hope that maybe one or two people might begin to see what is really happening, and I hope that sooner, not later, the core problems will be looked at properly by people who are more qualified than me.

Have a good weekend!